Workshops offered by all trainers

Pernille Plantener

Denmark

A.1. – Discovering your core values

by Pernille Plantener

Through guided meditation followed by dyad exercises, you will get to reveal your personal Core Values, those long-term needs that feel like the foundation under your feet. Knowing your core values becomes a personal scaffold for growing your relationships, and supporting you through decisions.

A.2. – Relational rupture and repair

by Pernille Plantener

We sometimes hurt other people unintentionally. It could even happen during this retreat. Instead of defending your intention (and adding to separation), learn how to have a repair conversation that connects and leaves both parties relieved and relaxed. We will also talk about those cases where you don’t get that the other person felt hurt by your actions. Expect roleplays and an intrinsic experience of what it feels to have restored balanceg elit. 

A.3.. Sacred vow identification and release

by Pernille Plantener

Introduction to Sarah Peyton’s Resonant Language and the process of releasing your very old conditioning, the algorithms of the nervous system. Sacred vows can keep us from feeling our feelings, expressing ourselves, asking for what we want, resting when we need it, engaging as we would like to, and trusting ourselves and others. They make us take on responsibility, take on the blame, blame others, blame ourselves, and much more. Through this session, you will learn a simple, yet profound process of identifying, embracing, and letting these patterns go.

A.4. – Using metaphors – a shortcut when empathizing

by Pernille Plantener

Sometimes, feelings words don’t really catch the other person’s experience. Or the other is not in a relationship with their feelings. Metaphors can serve as a shortcut to what really matters. In this session, you will learn and practice how to use metaphors in empathy without imposing something on the other. It lightens the conversation while offering synchronized accompaniment. As catching your partner in the beautiful dance of aerial acrobatics.

A.5. – Social identity and cultural awareness

by Pernille Plantener

In this class, we will look at the identities we humans carry with us – and what they mean to our ability to connect from the heart. We will look at the barriers to a connection that cultural norms and power differences have prompted on us, and find our personal language to promote eye-level connection anyway. Expect to explore how your multi-faceted identity – especially those aspects you are not aware of – influences you and others, and how to bypass them through acknowledgment of yourself and the other person.

A.6. – Befriending your inner critic

by Pernille Plantener

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A.7. – When ‘I’m never enough’ becomes enough!

by Pernille Plantener

In this session, we’ll hone in on the innermost layer of the inner critic. It may be we’ve done our bit of work to make peace with our internal ‘optimization agent’. It may be we have identified the pattern it maintains by pointing its judging finger at us, no matter how we adapt and improve ourselves. In this class, we will gently bring these phenomena into the open, and Pernille will offer a simple model for understanding and relieving it, derived from attachment theory.

A.8. – Family constellations

by Pernille Plantener

An evening session with Family Constellations exercises and a constellation for a participant. Family (or systemic) constellations create a 3D map of the client’s issue, using the wisdom of the living bodies in the room. It is an efficient way of understanding and releasing stuck patterns coming from family traumas, often resulting in clarity, transformation, and agency for the client. Participants are actively involved and can expect to get expanded understanding of their own issues and an experience of witnessing true healing.

David Weinstock

USA

C.1. – Basics of Personal Practice for Embodying NVC

by David Weinstock 

How do we embody the art of  Nonviolent Communication so it becomes who we are?  I approach NVC as lifelong learning and art. Here I will share the basics of my somatic approach to NVC and will lay out some key elements for shaping your own NVC practices in ways that are generative, felt, shareable and lasting.  In this session, I will also offer some basic practices for building new learning pathways and habits that bring a felt sense to Nonviolent Communication’s basics.  To create new ways of being in our lives we need practices that nurture growth and change over the long haul. 

C.2. – The Empathic Listening Field: The S.U.R.F. Practice

by David Weinstock 

S.U.R.F. Centering practice is a centering practice for somatically exploring and imbuing empathic listening with qualities of presence that we choose to embody. It is a simple yet expansive mind/body practice for exploring the qualities of needs in great depth, over time, and for inner guidance.  Over time, it increases the ability to articulate and integrate thoughts with feelings, clear emotional blockage, and embody and extend an empathic listening field imbued with ennobling qualities. The acronym S.U.R.F. stands for Shape, Unify, Resource, and Field. In the practices for embodying NVC, each word that expresses a need becomes a somatic exploration of a quality of Life, a welcome signpost pointing toward something much more comprehensive. 

C.3. – Shapeshifting: A Five-Element Practice for Embodying NVC

by David Weinstock 

How we shape ourselves is inextricably linked to how we shape our relationships, shape the world around us, as well as, how the world responds back to us. In all encounters, there is a play of nonverbal forces, habits, and responses. What we communicate through tone, gesture, body shape, and movement exceeds the impact of our choice of words. This five-elemental training explored over time develops “somatic impressions”—whole body/mind understandings– that reveal the wisdom found through the living of essential and ennobling needs such as:

– Understanding and meaning (ground), – Belonging and empathy (water), – Lightness and joy (wind),            -Creativity and expression (fire), -Presence and clarity (space).

Each element provides an opportunity for profound insights and self-growth This practice combines visualization and linguistic features with the Tai Chi movement to form a profound daily practice for managing internal overwhelms, listening with empathy, and harmonizing conflict in relationships.

C.4. – Transforming Core Strategies: From Reaction to Resource

by David Weinstock 

Invariably, we all grow up creating strategies that organize around a unique set of circumstances. Core strategies are the deeply embedded primary physical, emotional, and linguistic behaviors we’ve historically put in place to safeguard our basic needs for safety and belonging. These experiences and stories carried over time settle, through repetition and practice, into our muscles, cells, intentions, and what we communicate. Embodied historical stories and automatic habits that we suppress or ignore eventually taint our clarity and expression and can compel our actions beyond what we may truly intend or want.

 As an internal process, mourning and celebration breathe life into the places we have learned to protect, hide away, or in some manner or form have forsaken. This inner process builds tolerance of ourselves and understanding of our emotions as it grows the capacity for holding with compassion the emotional difficulties of others.

C.5. – Two Sides of Gratitude: Celebration and Mourning

by David Weinstock 

Mourning is when we grieve what we love and miss. Celebration is when we love what is present for us. They are two sides to gratitude. Celebration and mourning, fully felt, honors life. They bring sweet sorrow that is healing. Embracing both is not only healthy, the more heartfelt and clear, but we can also express our gratitude, the less prone we are to resentment, depression, despair, and violence. A deep, honest, authentic, expression of gratitude is an agent of change.

 This training session begins with a reconciliation between our inner schisms.  As an internal process, mourning and celebration breathe life into the places we have learned to protect, hideaway, or have forsaken. This inner process builds tolerance for ourselves and understanding of our emotions as it grows the capacity for holding with compassion the emotional difficulties of others. Mourning and celebration are processes that help us to fully receive and give in. 

C.6. – Seven Cs of Empathic Communication

by David Weinstock 

This session introduces 7 qualities – care, courage, curiosity, centering, creativity, confidence, and commitment – that support the journey towards the embodiment of an art, in this case, Nonviolent Communication. The focus here is on a way to cultivate skillful vulnerability that supports us in feeling safe, resourced, and empathic.  This practice allows the intelligence of our hearts, intuition, and mind to work in consensus to guide our words, choices, and actions. 

C.7. – Somatic Consensus: An NVC-Based Internal Mediation Process

by David Weinstock 

Mourning is when we grieve what we love and miss. Celebration is when we love what is present for us. They are two sides to gratitude. Celebration and mourning, fully felt, honors life. They bring sweet sorrow that is healing. Embracing both is not only healthy, the more heartfelt and clear, but we can also express our gratitude, the less prone we are to resentment, depression, despair, and violence. A deep, honest, authentic, expression of gratitude is an agent of change.

 This training session begins with a reconciliation between our inner schisms.  As an internal process, mourning and celebration breathe life into the places we have learned to protect, hideaway, or have forsaken. This inner process builds tolerance for ourselves and understanding of our emotions as it grows the capacity for holding with compassion the emotional difficulties of others. Mourning and celebration are processes that help us to fully receive and give in.  

C.8. – The Spiral Blend: A somatic map of NVC

by David Weinstock 

Spiral Blend offers an integrated physical, emotional, and linguistic map for practicing and understanding Nonviolent Communication processes. The Spiral Blend slows things down enough to establish awareness of our emotions during challenging and triggering moments. This allows our bodies’ signals to become an “inner guidance system” that brings direction and clarity to the choices at hand. The Spiral Blend brings special attention to the interplay of nonverbal forces, habits, and responses beneath the words we use and the stories we tell ourselves. When centered, we can discern the messages of our emotions. When un-centered, the tendency is to operate more mechanically through old, well-practiced patterns of comporting and expressing ourselves. The Spiral Blend is a process for staying present in conflict, listening empathically, and exploring collaborative strategies that honor everyone’s needs.

C.9. – Embodied Leadership

by David Weinstock 

We will explore practices for organizing and empowering word and action by grounding ourselves in NVC consciousness.  Leadership qualities such as honesty, integrity, humility, acceptance, empathy, and choice are learnable skills and states of being. When you know deeply what matters and what you care about and you move from that place, you can powerfully lead yourself and others. Much of what we express is non-verbal.  When words and action come out of an internal consensus, when we are deeply moved by the life that courses through and around us, we can affect life-affirming change based on loving protection for all.

Dmitriy Kopina

Slovenia

D.1. – Conscious choices 

by Dmitriy Kopina

We are in a constant decision-making process. Many of the choices we make are routine, some even don’t require much attention. In this workshop, we will explore how to make conscious choices when we are facing inner conflict, as these choices we make, may have an important impact on our lives. We will learn and practice how to resolve inner conflict by getting deep embodied contact to live in us, our feelings and need, and search for strategies that support life in us. A simple yet powerful tool to use in daily life and practicing NVC. 

D.2. – Embodied empathy in intense situations 

by Dmitriy Kopina

Being empathic is usually way easier when we are not deeply emotionally involved. In this intense workshop, we will explore how to really listen beyond words and actions, how to re-direct the flow of energy from otters to pass us, not having so much impact, and find deep embodied ways to support and build the capacity for our empathic presence, even in the most intense situations.  

D.3. – NVC Fun & Play 

by Dmitriy Kopina

I often hear that NVC is a serious practice and should not be taken lightly. I also get feedback from participants, that their family, friends, or colleagues struggle to learn NVC, as it involves lots of pain, vulnerability, and commitment (and it’s not fun). As I often use preparation for some “serious” practices in my workshop with games and “light” exercises, I got lots of feedback from people using these exercises as a supporting way, for many people to learn and practice NVC in a more relaxed, fun, playful and still very efficient way. We will explore and practice NVC principles through less formal and more relaxed teaching styles.

Marša Jović

Slovenia

E.1. – How Can I Find a Win-Win Solution in Every Conflict

by Marša Jović

In this workshop, we will focus on experiencing finding a win-win solution. First, we will raise our awareness of needs, feelings and strategies we use to fulfill our needs. By engaging in exercises we will work on our conflicts to see what is it that prevents us from finding a solution that is best for both parties. And lastly, the safe space we create will let our imagination run free and find unique win-win solutions. The experience will help us apply this skill in other conflicts as well. We will go home ready to take on the world with our minds open. 

E.2. – How Do I Ask for Something That Makes Me Feel Good

by Marša Jović

In this session, we will take up learning how to ask for the moon (if that is something that will meet our needs ). With a quick warmup activity, we will remind our subconscious selves about everything we know about needs, feelings, and strategies. Working in pairs we will address our personal conflicts to see how we could enrich your lives by learning how to ask for what will in fact fulfill our needs. Requests that actually do make our lives more wonderful have a few particularities and we will explore that too. When we hit that homerun though … we will celebrate too.

E.3. – How Can I Find Peace During a Conflict

by Marša Jović

Argh, regret, self-blame, blaming others – feelings and states that we are struggling to overcome in our lives. And we get better with each practice. And it takes time, but our capacity grows. You are kindly invited to explore calming down techniques from meditating to EFT and find your favorite. 

Anita Gomezel

Slovenia

F.1. – Strategies for Avoiding Emotions

by Anita Gomezel

In the past, our defense mechanism helped us survive by avoiding what we feel (usually as children). Though we may not be fully aware of it, that exact process is preventing us now from finding and feeling our emotions. We will try to make it clearer why it is sometimes so hard to find our feelings by discovering and exploring the strategies we built to run away from them and ourselves. As our awareness expands, so does our capacity for choice. 

F.2. – Trauma and NVC

by Anita Gomezel

Developmental trauma impacts most parts of our personality and the way we relate to other people. How to help ourselves come back to the body and stay so that we strengthen our internal safety. And, how to see and overcome trauma responses that are obstructing us in communication and connection with others.

F.3. – Spiritual Points of NVC

by Anita Gomezel

How NVC can support us to grow through levels of consciousness. When we open our hearts wide enough and connect with Needs, we connect with aspects of our consciousness that – rather than missing – are already complete and full. 

F.4. – Levels of Empathy

by Anita Gomezel

Through years of NVC practice and teaching, including practicing empathy in individual sessions, I realized how it requires self-work to distinguish empathy from sympathy, and how empathy has at least three levels. We will practice different levels of empathy. 

F.5. – “Just Love Yourself!”– But How!?

by Anita Gomezel

I admit I was pissed off in the past when somebody said to me: “Oh, you just need to love yourself more!” In my head, a jackal comes immediately: “You think I wouldn’t if I knew how?”. It took many years for me to realize that I was trying to be loved by others while not loving myself. I will be happy to vulnerably share my process in learning to love myself and how NVC has supported me in this. 

Judith Weinstock

USA

G.1. – Parenting/Re-parenting Ourselves 

by Judith Weinstock

This offering embraces the notion that what we have known/experienced as children informs how we show up as parents. In our longing to show up as the best parents, we can be we are challenged to “re-parent” ourselves—most often—while in the challenging daily process of being parents.This class will offer lively exploration and discussion of NVC consciousness and linguistics in relation to parenting.  We will integrate David Weinstock’s somatic practices to support the alignment of “head over heart, over belly”, to explore and identify the inconsistencies that occur between our hearts and our lips, and to gently hold the grief that we feel when our actions don’t match up with who we wish to be.  These practices support and illuminate the incremental shifts to celebrate as we bring our whole selves into alignment, anchored in the language of our hearts.

G.2. – Understanding Sexuality as a Strategy

by Judith Weinstock

This offering is an exploration of the NVC distinction of needs and strategies, specifically in the context of sexuality.  We will invite a lively conversation to illuminate enculturated assumptions around sexuality to support the development of the conscious choice of sex as a mutual strategy toward connection. We will integrate David Weinstock’s somatic practices to support exploration and alignment of “head over heart, over belly” in the context of how we engage in sexual relationships, what need we are longing to fulfill, the grief we may feel in needs not met, or meeting ones needs at the cost of another’s not getting met, and how we can consciously move toward choosing sex as a strategy to joyfully meet mutual needs.

G.3. – Community: How to Shape Our Collective Life on the Planet

by Judith Weinstock

This offering is an exploration, discussion of, and practices to inform and develop our universal need for community.  Integrating David Weinstock’s somatic practices, we can develop our muscles toward a more fluid experience of the dance between “me and we” to support our communal life.  Living in an intentional community since 1991, we are conscious of the “long arc of time” that invites us to witness, fight and forgive smaller grievances and to bring more compassion into our collective desire to create a more beautiful, compassionate world for all life on the planet.

Peter Ulrik Jensen

Denmark

H.1. – ‘Say Hello’

by Peter Ulrik Jensen

In this workshop, we will begin by saying a light ‘hello’ to each other. We will explore the subject of ‘saying hello’ and name some of the delights and awkwardnesses in everyday life. With NVC we will create awareness about the elements of a satisfying hello. To end the workshop, we will practice saying such a satisfying hello to another participant, and we will come up with a unique group-hello for just this workshop.

H.2. – ‘Say No’

by Peter Ulrik Jensen

In this workshop, we will get clarity about the importance of saying ‘no’ in human interactions, of boundaries. Through a demonstration role play, we will reflect on the elements of a clear and connective no. We will look at the benefits that come with such clear and conscious no’s. If time, we will also formulate a no in an example from a participant.

H.3. – ‘Let go’

by Peter Ulrik Jensen

Are there things, places, or people in your life that you find hard to let go of? Then you probably know what power there can be in attachment and how difficult it can be. We will get clarity about what elements and what process is needed to get to a place of being able to say a full – and mournful – goodbye. There will be space to reflect on an attachment in your personal life and to take a first step towards letting go. 

H.4. – NVC and religion

by Peter Ulrik Jensen

Quite a few people who practice NVC also have previous experience with religion or ideology. They missed something and have found it in NVC. With new enthusiasm, they may again turn to their religion with a deeper understanding. However, there might seem to be ‘clashes’: absolutes of religion versus the process language of NVC. In this workshop, we will share our experiences with NVC and the religious tradition each of us may be part of, and focus on some of the difficulties. We will identify the most common ones and attempt to translate them into NVC and see if they are still true and respectful of the religious tradition. Or might there be truths that cannot be harmonized with NVC? And then what?

Ellen Chinnock

USA

I.1. – Learning Community Dojo—Personal Practices for Deepening Relationships

by Ellen Chinnock

Creating lifelong personal practices for Becoming What You Need takes practice, practice, practice. Let’s explore NVC as a whole-body/mind communication and lifelong learning. Liminal Somatics Associate Trainer and Certified CNVC Trainer, Ellen Chinnock, will share basic principles and bring experiential practices that offer a somatic connection to the consciousness and qualities underlying this art and compassionate discipline. In each session, we’ll explore daily centering, grounding, and healing practices that grow body awareness and attunement to nature and our collective living over the long term. These sessions will connect with David Weinstock’s main sessions by bringing more experiential practice and discovery to make the powerful NVC linguistics embodied and creatively your own!